Just to make sure you understand me right, I will tell more of myself than I usually find necessary. – Wording of the pledge signed at purity balls. I deeply regret and will never again engage in sexual activity of any kind before marriage but will keep my thought and my body pure as a very special present for the one I marry. I now recognize that virginity is my most precious gift to offer my future husband. I (Name) re–pledge my purity to my father, my future/husband and my Creator. I will not engage in sexual activity of any kind before marriage but will keep my thought and my body pure as a very special present for the one I marry.įor Secondary Virgins (those who have engaged in promiscuous behavior) and wish to recommit themselves to lives of purity) I recognize that virginity is my most precious gift to offer to my future husband. I (Name) pledge my purity to my father, my future/husband and my Creator. I ackno wledge myself as the authority and protector of my daughter’s virginity, and pledge to be a man of integrity as I lead, guide, and pray over my daughter and her virginity – as the High Priest of my home. What happens with purity balls is, in effect, the daughter becomes her father’s property until he hands her off to her husband.I (Daughter’s Name)’s Father, choose before to God to war for my daughter’s purity. “That relates to a patriarchal position in the evangelical movement that not only defines female sexuality but females themselves as property. “These events represent an idea that there is something about female sexuality that needs to be controlled by dominant men in the household,” said Stange. Mary Zeiss Stange, a professor of women’s studies at Skidmore College, offers a feminist critique that gets to the heart of the problem: Not exactly the terminology that comes to mind when advocating for healthy father-daughter relationships. The father refers to himself in the pledge as “the high priest in my home,” while daughters are to be “cherished as regal princesses.” At its purity balls, each father pledges to “cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity.”
We don’t think it’s appropriate to put that weight on the daughter’s shoulders.”īut Generations of Light is hardly offering a radically enlightened experience. “It is a fatherhood event, not a virginity or abstinence event. “This was birthed out of our home, not the abstinence movement,” said Randy Wilson, who has five daughters and two sons, and who with his wife, Lisa, founded Generations of Light, a Christian ministry in Colorado Springs. Interestingly, the founder of the first purity ball said promoting abstinence wasn’t the focus. (A side note: check out this story published Thursday on the increase in the birth rate for teenagers age 15-19 - the latest numbers show that the birth rate increased 3 percent in 2006, the first increase since 1991).
The story thankfully includes a thorough assessment of the failure of abstinence only programs - noting, for example, that teen pregnancy rates have dropped 36 percent since peaking in 1990, largely because teens are having safer sex, not no sex. Nothing like the shaming of young women to spark a movement. What we want them to do is present themselves as a rose to their husband with no blemishes.” “Girls have a wonderful gift to give, and we don’t want them to give all of themselves away. That brings so much baggage and regret that it breaks down the marriage,” said Janet Hellige, a volunteer who organizes the biannual Father-Daughter Purity Ball sponsored by The Christian Center in Peoria. “Girls are going into marriage with 12 sexual relationships. (video included), one of many purity balls held around the country at which daughters promise their virginity to their fathers until marriage. The Chicago Tribune reports on a purity ball in Peoria, Ill.
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